Am I being anti-social by turning down spam friend requests?

**IBNobody** · 10-07-2011, 09:44 PM

I am the type of player who never accepts friend responses from total strangers. At first I thought this to be annoying. Friend request spamming was on the same level as guild request spamming. Now, though, I wonder. Am I shooting myself in the foot?

Do most people spam friend invites?

What is the purpose of these friend spams?

Do people use these casual friend lists to invite others into hosted games?

**blahggart** · 10-07-2011, 09:46 PM

basically it is so if u r a high level and they are low, if u go to a low level area they will join for easy exp. or they are just bored and and want to make new friends. (i do both)

**Ayc2000** · 10-07-2011, 09:46 PM

Hmm, most of them are probably from wanting to be a friend of a SG, but maybe some of them are people who have run with you or is from this forum. I agree that friend spamming is annoying. I usually add the ones who I've run with and I like their play style, some forum buddies, and some people I've heard of to be nice.

**blahggart** · 10-07-2011, 09:48 PM

Originally Posted by Ayc2000

Hmm, most of them are probably from wanting to be a friend of a SG, but maybe some of them are people who have run with you or is from this forum. I agree that friend spamming is annoying. I usually add the ones who I've run with and I like their play style, some forum buddies, and some people I've heard of to be nice.

i agree... i do the same. i add random people, but i end up having a lot in common with them.

**Silentarrow** · 10-07-2011, 09:49 PM

1. I don't know if most people do, but I remember I once had about 20 pages of friend requests on PL

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2. Some people just like having a big friends list, some people use it so they can easily find games/invite people.
3. I think so...

**ezarf** · 10-07-2011, 09:52 PM

I get spam friends invites a lot also,is very annoying ,wouldn't mind it so much if they would say hi first maybe talk some. I don't mind helping but I don't like the random ppl invites

**thewolf** · 10-07-2011, 10:33 PM

ya spam alot

**CanonicalKoi** · 10-07-2011, 10:53 PM

I'd prefer to run with someone before they send a request, but as long as they don't immediately follow the request with, "Can I have stuff/credits/your firstborn" or "power-level me!", I don't mind the spammed ones. I only send them if it's someone I know from here or at the end of a run if I liked how they played.

**WhoIsThis** · 10-07-2011, 11:53 PM

No. I wouldn't worry about it. There's too many friend requests these days.

**pigeon** · 10-08-2011, 12:18 AM

I turn them down or sometimes end up ignoring the pending f/r list completely.

I used to accept all of them, but being spam invited to games by them later, while already in a game was just too much for me... this had to stop and they had to go.

**THE Tesla** · 10-08-2011, 12:45 AM

Originally Posted by pigeon

I turn them down or sometimes end up ignoring the pending f/r list completely.

I used to accept all of them, but being spam invited to games by them later, while already in a game was just too much for me... this had to stop and they had to go.

Ditto to everything

But I will also add them, or consider adding them, if they begin a conversation first. A simple hello goes a long way

**thequickone** · 10-08-2011, 03:13 AM

I used to accept just about every friend request. Ultimately, that left me with a list full of players that are either not on often/at all, are at largely differing level from me, or just have different play-styles. I'm far more selective now.

Like others here, I generally do not accept a request unless it came from someone I know from here or an alt, had a good run with, or had a good conversation with.

I find that I send friend requests even less than I accept them.

All of the above may leave you with a smaller list of friends, but that list should also be higher quality!

**BodMaster** · 10-08-2011, 06:41 AM

1. Yes, I believe nearly all lower level players spam invites (unless they have played PL or just experienced in these games in general.

2. To be able to spam join invites, most never speak or even say hi

3. Yes, I have so many join invites sent to me followed by a PM asking why I haven't joined (randomers) if they ask nicely or need help with a boss etc then I will join, however if this is just to power level im more than likely to ignore esp when I join and they don't say a word through that instance.. end up leaving straight after.. then getting more join invites followed by spam PMs. (Very annoying)

In all honesty if a player comes up to me starts chatting and we have a lot in common I will add no matter what level. If i do a full run with someone that I can see has potential and got that thinking head on I will add or accept (only after the run or chat while running not on straight after they F/R me. Another that im happy to add is if I see a name im familiar with on the forums and we posted on the same threads etc.

On Bod last week I had 250-300 f/r I usually go through these and pick out the ones I recognize until recently I done the unimaginable! Pressed accept all!!! It took over 5+ mins to complete all of them where I just had to leave my phone and wait patiently for it to reach Z.. after it all I thought wooop finally just about to go do my thing and then I get bombarded by PMs and Join intvites.. then more PMs asking me to join.. or why haven't I joined (worst experience on here ever) I immediately after say 5mins went on my Alt so that I didn't keep getting bugged.

So I guess there are bad points and good points.. im usually the optimist but in this case personally I believe that the Con's out weigh the Pro's.

Also im in agreement with someone above stating that you are a SG so if they know your name they will be adding you though it seems to come with the territory.. only one player I know that adds every single invite and that is Ghost (before he was SG) unsure if he still does but my guess would be he does.

Hope this helped, people may have a different view on this but this is my personal opinion from experience.

**IBNobody** · 10-08-2011, 10:04 AM

Hmm... So it doesn't sound like I'm missing much...

I have a strategy...

I think that from now on, I will begin to accept random friend invites only from Engineers that are roughly my level. I will only do this on my op or comm and not on my own Engineer.

This way, if I use the game's matchmaking service, I will have a better chance of being paired with a "Random Engineer Friend ", or REF.

If said REF does not understand what that little "Empathy" icon is for, they get de-REFfed.

We'll see how this social experiment goes.

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As far as being Star Guard... I honestly can say that I get the same amount of friend invite spam. (I get more many many more PM's, though. You'd be surprised at the number of players who don't know about these forums.)

**CanonicalKoi** · 10-08-2011, 10:10 AM

Originally Posted by IBNobody

As far as being Star Guard... I honestly can say that I get the same amount of friend invite spam. (I get more many many more PM's, though. You'd be surprised at the number of players who don't know about these forums.)

Noooooo....I wouldn't say that I'm surprised by that.....

I would love to have a PM pre-set for that, though.

**starsavior** · 10-08-2011, 10:38 AM

I just accept them all because of the constant, " why you not accept my request", so my friends list is full of inactive level ones. Pretty soon I'm going to do some cleaning out on my list because I only have about 50 or so that actually do play.

**Ayc2000** · 10-08-2011, 10:54 AM

Originally Posted by CanonicalKoi

Noooooo....I wouldn't say that I'm surprised by that.....

I would love to have a PM pre-set for that, though.

For your quick chat slot, you could have a /r (insert comment here)

**BodMaster** · 10-08-2011, 11:17 AM

Originally Posted by IBNobody

Hmm... So it doesn't sound like I'm missing much...

I have a strategy...

I think that from now on, I will begin to accept random friend invites only from Engineers that are roughly my level. I will only do this on my op or comm and not on my own Engineer.

This way, if I use the game's matchmaking service, I will have a better chance of being paired with a "Random Engineer Friend ", or REF.

If said REF does not understand what that little "Empathy" icon is for, they get de-REFfed.

We'll see how this social experiment goes.

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As far as being Star Guard... I honestly can say that I get the same amount of friend invite spam. (I get more many many more PM's, though. You'd be surprised at the number of players who don't know about these forums.)

Inform us of how that goes for you

Agree with that last part tho.. so many that don't know about the forums and when you mention new content they usually are so confused that you know so much! Hehe