Can Someone please clarify what's going on?

[Erik_is_funny_lol]

I was chatting with this girl on Facebook whom I know in real life a few days ago...we were chatting like we were best friends, and then everything turned around.

I have no idea why, I asked her why she has been quiet and then she said she's ignoring me. I asked why and she said "cuz I said so u msg me when your bored"

WTF! Everything was fine until this happened! Can someone please help me understand why she did this?

I might have a theorey though...there is this guy I hate and he is also Facebook friends with that girl, and he might have said bad stuff about me to her behind my back...could that be it? Someone please help :( I miss having chats with her

[Ladylove]

She thinks you only talk to her when you're bored? That's bad...

[Erik_is_funny_lol]

She thinks you only talk to her when you're bored? That's bad...

No, I always talk to her when I get the chance

She was saying "u msg me when ur bored" in a command type of way

[Junside]

Who cares? Other fish in the sea. You shouldn't have to beg or force her attention. Or react over lack of it.

[FluffNStuff]

I was chatting with this girl on Facebook whom I know in real life a few days ago...we were chatting like we were best friends, and then everything turned around.

I have no idea why, I asked her why she has been quiet and then she said she's ignoring me. I asked why and she said "cuz I said so u msg me when your bored"

WTF! Everything was fine until this happened! Can someone please help me understand why she did this?

I might have a theorey though...there is this guy I hate and he is also Facebook friends with that girl, and he might have said bad stuff about me to her behind my back...could that be it? Someone please help :( I miss having chats with her

I don't get this at all, there is something about this you are not explaining right. So she said that She is ignoring you, but she wants you to message her when you are bored? You sure she didn't say she will message you when she is bored?

[Erik_is_funny_lol]

I don't get this at all, there is something about this you are not explaining right. So she said that She is ignoring you, but she wants you to message her when you are bored? You sure she didn't say she will message you when she is bored?

I'm sure man! Everything I said in that post is correct

[Ladylove]

It sounds like you give her the idea that you only message her when she is bored... making her feel like your last resort and not a priority

[Erik_is_funny_lol]

It sounds like you give her the idea that you only message her when she is bored... making her feel like your last resort and not a priority

Thats strange though, cuz we used to talk like ALOT ://

[Ladylove]

Do you ever say anything about being bored when you talk to her? She might think you're talking about her..

[Erik_is_funny_lol]

Do you ever say anything about being bored when you talk to her? She might think you're talking about her..

Well, the only times I've mentioned the word "bored" was when I was doing my boring homework AND chatting with her at the same time, could that be it?

[giayuan]

probably not..go message the girls on here, theyll help ;)

[Zeus]

Well, the only times I've mentioned the word "bored" was when I was doing my boring homework AND chatting with her at the same time, could that be it?

That most definitely is it. You NEVER tell a girl you are bored, NEVER! Gives them the wrong idea. When you were doing your boring homework it implied that you were bored and you came to her to chat with to help you with the boredom, which in fact does make it seem to her that you are her last resort, and judging by this, she kind of likes you otherwise she wouldn't bother to message you that.

[giayuan]

Well! range you certainly got Da experience here =)

[Erik_is_funny_lol]

Oh my god i swear im so dumb. What should I do now??

[Erik_is_funny_lol]

Sorry I can't let this thread go down

[Zeus]

You need to apologize to her, and prove to her somehow that when you said your homework was boring and you were talking to her, you didn't mean that you were bored and she was your last resort to rid your boredom.

[Junside]

You need to apologize to her, and prove to her somehow that when you said your homework was boring and you were talking to her, you didn't mean that you were bored and she was your last resort to rid your boredom.

I'm entirely against this.

[Zeus]

I'm entirely against this.

Well, he can also go the other way and... play hard to get, which might work out in his favor, but I thought that way wouldn't work in this situation, so I didn't give him that advice. I for one though well do it either way, depending on the situation.

[Ladylove]

Yeah.. when guys act bored I'm like "buh bye" and they're like "...what?"

[Erik_is_funny_lol]

You need to apologize to her, and prove to her somehow that when you said your homework was boring and you were talking to her, you didn't mean that you were bored and she was your last resort to rid your boredom.

How do I introduce the topic? I mean, is this good:

"Hey Suzy, I'm really sorry for all those times I said that I was bored. I was doing homework from a certain class that I hate, and when I was saying I was bored, I was referring to the homework assignment.

I was never bored when I was talking to you, you always kept my day full of happiness. Thats probably why u said I shouldn't message you unles I was bored, wasn't it? Well it's not true, and I would be crazy to say that I was bored while talking to you. Please :( I wanna chat like we used to again!"

Is that good?

[Zeus]

How do I introduce the topic? I mean, is this good:

"Hey Suzy, I'm really sorry for all those times I said that I was bored. I was doing homework from a certain class that I hate, and when I was saying I was bored, I was referring to the homework assignment.

I was never bored when I was talking to you, you always kept my day full of happiness. Thats probably why u said I shouldn't message you unles I was bored, wasn't it? Well it's not true, and I would be crazy to say that I was bored while talking to you. Please :( I wanna chat like we used to again!"

Is that good?

Umm... it's an apology, this may seem complicated, but you want to apologize without seeming totally needy, because most girl's I know hate that sort of thing, and it drives them away. Unless of course that this is the rare occasion in which she likes sweet guys, then your current apology should suffice.

[Erik_is_funny_lol]

Umm... it's an apology, this may seem complicated, but you want to apologize without seeming totally needy, because most girl's I know hate that sort of thing, and it drives them away. Unless of course that this is the rare occasion in which she likes sweet guys, then your current apology should suffice.

Wow I always mess up on this stuff, can you edit it a bit please?

[Junside]

Well, he can also go the other way and... play hard to get, which might work out in his favor, but I thought that way wouldn't work in this situation, so I didn't give him that advice. I for one though well do it either way, depending on the situation.

It's not playing hard to get because he has nothing to apologize for. If she gives him that attitude further, then forget her. She's trying to assume some sort of power over him.

You don't hand out apologies just like that. She misunderstood him so it's not entirely his fault.

OP, I advise you to just play it off and come back to here with a new subject. Something interesting. Not the weather. Take a silly picture, share a youtube video. If anything, the best to do is to talk to her in person. If you by any chance like her, make no advances over the internet.

I can teach you how to make her fall for you, and in the process make other women find you interesting as well. I was a pick-up coach for about 7 months. But if you're underage I can't teach everything.

In ending, just play it off. You don't even need to talk to her. If she never talks to you, then screw her. She didn't try either. Friendship is a mutual effort. You test her, not her testing you.

[Ladylove]

It's not playing hard to get because he has nothing to apologize for. If she gives him that attitude further, then forget her. She's trying to assume some sort of power over him.

You don't hand out apologies just like that. She misunderstood him so it's not entirely his fault.

OP, I advise you to just play it off and come back to here with a new subject. Something interesting. Not the weather. Take a silly picture, share a youtube video. If anything, the best to do is to talk to her in person. If you by any chance like her, make no advances over the internet.

I can teach you how to make her fall for you, and in the process make other women find you interesting as well. I was a pick-up coach for about 7 months. But if you're underage I can't teach everything.

In ending, just play it off. You don't even need to talk to her. If she never talks to you, then screw her. She didn't try either. Friendship is a mutual effort. You test her, not her testing you.

It's like an episode of Made on MTV... There is a guy who went to a high school around here who got Made into a ladies man. Ethan Mann

[Erik_is_funny_lol]

If you by any chance like her, make no advances over the internet.

OMFG Wow I scruued up

[Junside]

How do I introduce the topic? I mean, is this good:

"Hey Suzy, I'm really sorry for all those times I said that I was bored. I was doing homework from a certain class that I hate, and when I was saying I was bored, I was referring to the homework assignment.

I was never bored when I was talking to you, you always kept my day full of happiness. Thats probably why u said I shouldn't message you unles I was bored, wasn't it? Well it's not true, and I would be crazy to say that I was bored while talking to you. Please :( I wanna chat like we used to again!"

Is that good?

I'm going to be brutally honest and harsh and I don't care if you hate me for this. Do you know what this tells me?

"This guy has no hope to socialize with any other women so he is stuck on this one girl. He looks so desperate for her attention and now's he's going to beg to want it back. He looks like a loser."

[Ladylove]

OMFG Wow I scruued up

Ikr... Texting too really... Over the phone is so much more personal. Or Skype even... Even better: IN PERSON

[Zeus]

I'm going to be brutally honest and harsh and I don't care if you hate me for this. Do you know what this tells me?

"This guy has no hope to socialize with any other women so he is stuck on this one girl. He looks so desperate for her attention and now's he's going to beg to want it back. He looks like a loser."

This is why you are the coach and not me LMAO. I always try and sugar coat things :(.

[Erik_is_funny_lol]

Haha wow I really do feel like a loser.

Junside do u know the most effective way to chat with her and make things better again? I have no clue :(

[Zeus]

Ikr... Texting too really... Over the phone is so much more personal. Or Skype even... Even better: IN PERSON

You removed David's signature! OMG! He is going to be maaaaaaaaaaaaad

[Ladylove]

You removed David's signature! OMG! He is going to be maaaaaaaaaaaaad

Accident... I was trying to try out my attempt at making my own since Brandon isnt going to. Epic fail... The picture I made is kinda neat, but I can't size right...

[KingFu]

Ehh, idk, maybe she was chatting with multiple people, and someone said something about you? If she doesn't wanna talk, and is just gonna be a jerk to you, ignore her. No one deserves someone that ignores them.

I used to like this girl, we would chat and text 24/7. We would flirt every other text (straight up flirt, saying the other was cute, blah blah blah) We started to get more serious, then we just list connection. I tried chatting on facebook with her a few times but never replied. Then, 2 months later, my kinda ex girlfriend started chatting with me on facebook, then just went offline, and did it again the next day, just out of no where in the midst of our conversation.

Moral of the story:

Girls on facebook are bad news. Don't play farmville with them or they'll Jack all your geese (yes, that was kinda of an analogy, but I swear its happened to someone at least once!)

LL, We, as men, will never understand woman. If we try to they'll play mind games and make us their puppets without us even knowing it! All we know, is that were always at fault :p

[KingFu]

Accident... I was trying to try out my attempt at making my own since Brandon isnt going to. Epic fail... The picture I made is kinda neat, but I can't size right...

I'll edit it and resize it. I can also crop stuff stuff into it. Just send it to me in a pm.

[Erik_is_funny_lol]

Ehh, idk, maybe she was chatting with multiple people, and someone said something about you? If she doesn't wanna talk, and is just gonna be a jerk to you, ignore her. No one deserves someone that ignores them.

I used to like this girl, we would chat and text 24/7. We would flirt every other text (straight up flirt, saying the other was cute, blah blah blah) We started to get more serious, then we just list connection. I tried chatting on facebook with her a few times but never replied. Then, 2 months later, my kinda ex girlfriend started chatting with me on facebook, then just went offline, and did it again the next day, just out of no where in the midst of our conversation.

Moral of the story:

Girls on facebook are bad news. Don't play farmville with them or they'll Jack all your geese (yes, that was kinda of an analogy, but I swear its happened to someone at least once!)

LL, We, as men, will never understand woman. If we try to they'll play mind games and make us their puppets without us even knowing it! All we know, is that were always at fault :p

Ehh I still am confused on what to do...

By the way, LL? don't you mean me? >.>

[Junside]

Haha wow I really do feel like a loser.

Junside do u know the most effective way to chat with her and make things better again? I have no clue :(

Why are you so fixated on her?

Wait, I know. High school crushes. I remember. I used to be so ineffective with women. I really wish I knew what I did now back then.

Anyway, back to you... She's not the only girl in your life and by closing yourself off to this one girl -- who you may or may not know that she likes some other guy -- you may lose your chance for a better one. So no, I don't know any effective way to get her back. And you know what? That's perfectly fine. Are you going to die of loneliness? No. Don't make this such a big deal! There is plenty of girls around and if she's going to be so closed off, then you can talk to some other girls.

Let me tell you a story.

I was at the club a few days before christmas. Everything was fun, I drank, I danced(which I fail at, but girls make it look like you're not so terrible at it). I sat down with three women I had met that night and I was talking to them all. Guess who I saw that night: my ex. Her and her friends came up to me with all this interested body language. So now I was surrounded by like 10 women. Whoo hoo! Who looks like the man? lol It doesn't matter if we were arguing or having staring contests, people will be curious why you're a social magnet. I know it's an important detail but I won't mention what I actually talk about to keep people not bored and interested in what I say.

My point, like I mentioned, don't give her all your attention. If you see her in person, smile and say hi. Give her a hug. Bear hugs are even more awesome where you lift her. And then you can say "I like buttered toast" or whatever. Just do not give too much attention to one girl unless she totally deserves it! And lose feelings like "shy" and "embarrassed". A man should be able to do anything.

Go socialize with other women. Get phone numbers. It's not hard.

Women give their phone numbers to their friends all the time, why should it be so difficult for you?

And do not flirt indirectly, it may work but not strongly effective. Always be in charge of conversation, be a leader, make other dudes jealous, be the man.

[Erik_is_funny_lol]

She is literally the only girl I've spoken to SO FAR that understands me for who I am...the other girls don't, they just don't day anything to me, except occasional "Hi's"

But I guess that's too much to ask for...oh well, now I'm searching for new girls...

[flaimdude]

Ah, young love. XD

[KingFu]

Ehh I still am confused on what to do...

By the way, LL? don't you mean me? >.>

We/I know dude;) No hiding stuff from me. I'm like a Dog, in the mid Us, hunting for truffles :o

Anyways, not much you can do. Just know that to yourself, you deserve someone that'll listen, not ignore. She's selfish if shes one to ignore.

[Erik_is_funny_lol]

We/I know dude;) No hiding stuff from me. I'm like a Dog, in the mid Us, hunting for truffles :o

Anyways, not much you can do. Just know that to yourself, you deserve someone that'll listen, not ignore. She's selfish if shes one to ignore.

...............................I'm telling u I'm not Lightninglord, and yea I do deserve those kind of people

[FluffNStuff]

Why are you so fixated on her?

Wait, I know. High school crushes. I remember. I used to be so ineffective with women. I really wish I knew what I did now back then.

Anyway, back to you... She's not the only girl in your life and by closing yourself off to this one girl -- who you may or may not know that she likes some other guy -- you may lose your chance for a better one. So no, I don't know any effective way to get her back. And you know what? That's perfectly fine. Are you going to die of loneliness? No. Don't make this such a big deal! There is plenty of girls around and if she's going to be so closed off, then you can talk to some other girls.

Let me tell you a story.

I was at the club a few days before christmas. Everything was fun, I drank, I danced(which I fail at, but girls make it look like you're not so terrible at it). I sat down with three women I had met that night and I was talking to them all. Guess who I saw that night: my ex. Her and her friends came up to me with all this interested body language. So now I was surrounded by like 10 women. Whoo hoo! Who looks like the man? lol It doesn't matter if we were arguing or having staring contests, people will be curious why you're a social magnet. I know it's an important detail but I won't mention what I actually talk about to keep people not bored and interested in what I say.

My point, like I mentioned, don't give her all your attention. If you see her in person, smile and say hi. Give her a hug. Bear hugs are even more awesome where you lift her. And then you can say "I like buttered toast" or whatever. Just do not give too much attention to one girl unless she totally deserves it! And lose feelings like "shy" and "embarrassed". A man should be able to do anything.

Go socialize with other women. Get phone numbers. It's not hard.

Women give their phone numbers to their friends all the time, why should it be so difficult for you?

And do not flirt indirectly, it may work but not strongly effective. Always be in charge of conversation, be a leader, make other dudes jealous, be the man.

OMG like totally LOL.

[FluffNStuff]

Anyway, to the OP, even if she was MADLY in love with you and were were the CENTER of her world, you still would not be the ONLY thing in it. She was busy with something, no big deal. Best thing you can do is nothing. Yes, nothing.

[Palyna]

Since she is playing game with you, that means she is not that into you.