My romantic dilemma

[RedRyder]

I think I'm falling in love with my best friend. She's attractive but I was never attracted to her in that manner till recently, and I've known her for quite some time. We have a great deal in common and the exact same sense of humor which is why we get along so well. Main issue is, she's in love with a friend of mine that doesn't put out to her the same way she puts out for him. It sucks a lot cause all I keep hearing about is them fighting and she's come to me the past two days crying at my house and it just breaks my heart. I'm there for her all hours of the day and night. She's just not herself anymore.


The thing she has going on with my friend isn't going anywhere anytime soon, so I'm just stuck. It sucks talking to her now, but I can't stop being her friend. The beat part of this is that the three of us are coworkers and in the same department, so everytime I do work either he's there or they're both there.

Idk what to doooooooooooo

[NeoQueen]

First, your theme thread song: "I Wanna Be" by Chris Brown.

I'm kinda on the fence about this. I got together with my best guy friend and while we were together it was great. But then he went to Basic, we tried to go back to just friends, and now barely talk to each other. I do wish that nothing had happened and I still had my friend, as I miss him more as my friend than as a boyfriend.

So, I say don't do it unless you are prepared to possibly lose a great friend if a relationship doesn't work out or she doesn't feel the same.
On the other hand, this girl could be your soulmate and to not say something could be the greatest mistake ever.

There is no way to give you a definite direction unless one knew both of you, but you should be a friend. If you truly feel that she and her boyfriend spend more time arguing and you don't think their relationship is healthy then tell her. If she is really a great friend she will take what you say and use it or discard.

But looking at this with your best interest in mind, you should do something soon. I'm pretty sure that unrequited longing is not helping you and you could come to resent her for always using you as the shoulder she cries on but never seeing you as more. As much as you care for her, you also have to keep in mind what is good for YOU in the long run.

[LADYHADASSA]

Red,
This is indeed a double edged sword and a hard space to be in. To weigh out the pros and cons of the situation is very important. To answer questions within yourself

1) what caused you to suddenley be aware of this attraction? Was it somthing you hid or was it brought on by empathy for her situation?

2) how good of a friend is her bf to you? There is that un written rule that says dont date your friends x's ... So you do stand to loose this friendship

3) what kind of stress will this cause at work?

4) being simular to another is a good thing but are there enough opposites to bring balance to a possible relationshipmwith this girl?

5) are you willing to put your friendship on the line with her if things did not work out?

Neo queen brings a valid point, many of us have experienced crossing the line with friends of the opposite sex. And the result has been a destruction of friendship. You do need to validate how you are feeling, feelings are never wrong but can change in an instant, so search within yourself first before moving forward on emotion, acting on emotion so often casues us all to face palm when our mood changes. And somtimes, thinking things threw only cause our minds to validate how we feel.

You said this is recent so before moving on it, give yourself a little more time to balance out your thoughts, and work outmopposition before going to her and presenting these feelings that will in turn leave you vulnerable and open to hurt.

Every square has 6 sides depending on how you view the square. Every issue we crossmin life houses several solutions if we seek them......

:)

[Junside]

I could teach you how to boyfriend destroy if you wanted... it's actually something I'm proud to say I've done in the past for this exact reason.

And I have some emails from this other PUA guy who knows what he's doing. If his words don't bless you with a new arsenal of empowerment, then he'll definitely give you the confidence boost.

Either way, you get what you want. That's what all kings do. They get what they want. Your friend can let her go if things aren't working.

[NeoQueen]

I could teach you how to boyfriend destroy if you wanted... it's actually something I'm proud to say I've done in the past for this exact reason.

And I have some emails from this other PUA guy who knows what he's doing. If his words don't bless you with a new arsenal of empowerment, then he'll definitely give you the confidence boost.

Either way, you get what you want. That's what all kings do. They get what they want. Your friend can let her go if things aren't working.

Please tell me your entire post is full of sarcasm and I just am not running on all cylinders to not have realized it.

[Junside]

/sarcasm


Please tell me your entire post is full of sarcasm and I just am not running on all cylinders to not have realized it.

It's okay. Women laugh at this kinda stuff all the time. It's like, they deny existance.

[giayuan]

My story was about the same thing. We were friends, and her boyfriend was messing up her life. She came to me because I was there and I helped her all I can. Eventually I admitted that I loved her... Apparently she did too. So we started going out. But now...meh. I approached her too early. Now i dont know.. im hella depressed and shes SAYS shes sad, but wouldya look at that? she loves someone else. Sigh... Still getting over her.. Anyway. My advice to you Max, is to wait it out. Grow together. Take her out somewhere!! Have some fun. Most important point: Always be there for her. I messed that aspect up and I paid. Dont ever leave her if you truly love her. good luck bro!~

[BeardedBear]

Don't be soft and don't ALWAYS be there for her when she is just using you a shoulder to cry on and tell you about her messed up relationship. Once a woman sees you as just a friend, it's hard to change that. Harsh, but true.

[Junside]

Aw man... I'm just not gonna comment further. Well, I guess experiences are different for everyone. Max, if you want my advice, you got plenty of places to reach me. Good luck, bud

[RedRyder]

I think she knows already that I'm developing feelings toward her. My friend and her aren't going out, they're "talking" but it's pretty serious on her part. He's always holding back due to the opinions of other people but I on the other hand, could give two sh**s about what other people say. I've seen her at her lowest because of this guy and it's not cool at all. Me ad the guy became semi good friends after my actual closer friend (also both of our friend and coworker) was sent to prison. That's really the only reason we connected. But after all this happening with the girl, I'm not so fond of him anymore.

If I make the move on her and it goes bad, I know I could lose a friend and on top of that things would be extremely tense at work. There have been times where she's come to me intoxicated and being very affectionate towards me and actually confessed to me that she has a crush on me. I shrugged it off because she was drunk, but it really had me thinking. She's told me before that she's starting to lose feelings for the guy. I don't blame her... He won't even hangout with her or even have phone conversations with her...

But I'm always the one up for it when she wants to go somewhere, and I'm always the one to answer her phone calls even stepping out in the middle of lectures in school. It sucks seeing her cry and all depressed, especially seeing her when she's all lively and happy when we've hung out or playing guitar together in my room or her car making songs.

At this point I'm afraid to make any move. If I lose her friendship I honestly woldnt know what to do with myself. I've spent a whole day not talking to her before and it really sucked. Meanwhile this guy can do it no problem and just hit her up acting the victim when she did nothing but cry her eyes out for the guy.

It just isn't fair...

Edit: oh boy that got long lol

[Junside]

Think if it this way. If you don't act soon, she'll just end up going to someone else. If you're confident in yourself to be the man to take care of her, go for it. If you're confident in yourself, that's less for her to worry about you being the same mistake she's making now being with that other guy. Beyond playing hard to get and breaking down a woman's shield of pretending to be a bitch to protect herself and whatnot, honest and direct worked too. In some cases, they think too hard and think you have ulterior motives except just wanting her. If you don't get her, it's not the end of the world for either of you.

[Redbridge]

Think if it this way. If you don't act soon, she'll just end up going to someone else.

Whoa..... Wait a moment.. Sorry to disagree Junside but I think making a move would complicate things.

It might not seem like it, but the whole thing may be very simple to resolve.

It seems like there's two clearly separate issues here, and it's vital they are kept separate to avoid a possible disaster.....

Firstly, your friend has a relationship problem that needs to be the main priority and may get messy if confused with anything else. Be the great friend you are already being, and dont be frightened to be honest about your feelings, but do be careful to do nothing but support her through her problem, that's what great friends do. Only once this has been resolved, to your benefit or not, can the pair of you explore the second issue, which is whether the two of you might have some sort of future together.

I'd fully recommend resolving each issue individually and ensure the first, FULLY, has a line under it before looking at the second. You would then be building any future friendship/relationship on solid clear ground, with no confusing baggage.

Good Luck and best wishes with whatever happens.

[Junside]

Whoa..... Wait a moment.. Sorry to disagree Junside but I think making a move would complicate things.

It might not seem like it, but the whole thing may be very simple to resolve.

It seems like there's two clearly separate issues here, and it's vital they are kept separate to avoid a possible disaster.....

Firstly, your friend has a relationship problem that needs to be the main priority and may get messy if confused with anything else. Be the great friend you are already being, and dont be frightened to be honest about your feelings, but do be careful to do nothing but support her through her problem, that's what great friends do. Only once this has been resolved, to your benefit or not, can the pair of you explore the second issue, which is whether the two of you might have some sort of future together.

I'd fully recommend resolving each issue individually and ensure the first, FULLY, has a line under it before looking at the second. You would then be building any future friendship/relationship on solid clear ground, with no confusing baggage.

Good Luck and best wishes with whatever happens.

Good point, experiences are different.

I just don't let opportunities pass by. Something like this would pain me slowly with every passing moment and I simply like to take initiative. I didn't mean to be reckless though.

[Redbridge]

Good point, experiences are different.

I just don't let opportunities pass by. Something like this would pain me slowly with every passing moment and I simply like to take initiative. I didn't mean to be reckless though.

Very very true.... Different approaches come from different experiences... She might well appreciate the impulsiveness, but from my experiences I've always messed it up when I mixed things in the same pot....

It must be sooooo frustrating & confusing for you Red, concentrate on being the good friend you are....

[Pandamoni]

Is she really in a position/point in her life to be in a healthy relationship? Some people, for whatever reason, can't be in a relationship with someone who will treat them well because they don't feel they are worthy of being loved well (sometimes this is such a deep wound/issue that they don't even realize they're doing this so bringing it up to her--if it IS going on--might not be a good idea).

What I'd hate for you to do is push for something while she's in a vulnerable state and catch her rebounding, then have YOU be the one crying your eyes out as you have to watch her continue to get pooped on by dude.

I think Lady's first question about why the sudden attraction and the possibility that it's brought on by empathy is a good one.

The fact that you might lose her is very possible if you come on to her and she's not into you or if you guys do get together and it doesn't work out.

My best friend was a guy and for YEARS we were friends. I loved him so dearly. I was attracted to him when I was young (14-16) but he wasn't attracted to me. Then I stopped being attracted to him, he started being attracted to me but I no longer liked him that way. He never professed his feelings to me but I could just tell. Because he didn't tell me how he felt and he respected I didn't feel the same way, it was okay and I never felt pressured or weird.

Then, when we were older he started getting really possessive of me and started making little comments when I'd have problems with my boyfriend. I didn't appreciate his negativity and it pushed me away. He wanted more, he wanted to show me he could be a better partner, but at the end of the day I didn't need a partner, I needed a friend. I stopped talking to him when I was about 26 and I still miss him a ton. I see him here and there but it's never the same and that makes me sad.

Be honest with yourself about where you see this going AND if you can handle the consequences if it goes sour.

[RedRyder]

All great advice. I haven't spoken to her since last night and it really sucks but I just wanna give her space. She always ends up looking for me so I'm just waiting on it. They may have worked things out, or they might not have. I have no idea and it's killing me right now -_-

I'm really considering just not pursuing her anymore and meeting someone else when I go away to school in September. The wait in between is going to suck majorly, but it seems like the beat solution. Maybe in the future we might cross paths and something might come out of it. The thought of nothing happening just really makes my heart ache, but some things just can't be helped

[FluffNStuff]

1) Get a different Job.
2) Never talk to either of them again.

[j46g629h]

agree with fluffNStuff

I think you should treat yourself better

[RedRyder]

I'm all for not talking to the guy anymore, but the girls someone I'm not willing to let go. She didn't do anything to hurt me purposely as she's not fully aware about my feelings towards her. Anything inflicted on me by her would be my fault for not telling her

[FluffNStuff]

I'm all for not talking to the guy anymore, but the girls someone I'm not willing to let go. She didn't do anything to hurt me purposely as she's not fully aware about my feelings towards her. Anything inflicted on me by her would be my fault for not telling her

Which was clear from your original post, so my advice still stands:
1) Get a different Job.
2) Never talk to either of them again.

[DawnInfinity]

Red,

From personal experience, I don't really know. I started dating my friend and we broke up and became best friends. Then we were friends with "benefits" for awhile / dating for awhile, and now we are just good friends. A romantic dilemma with your friend might mess up what you have already, so always take that into consideration. You don't want to hurt her even more, but you have that potential to make your relationship even better.

[Potawto]

All great advice. I haven't spoken to her since last night and it really sucks but I just wanna give her space. She always ends up looking for me so I'm just waiting on it. They may have worked things out, or they might not have. I have no idea and it's killing me right now -_-

I'm really considering just not pursuing her anymore and meeting someone else when I go away to school in September. The wait in between is going to suck majorly, but it seems like the beat solution. Maybe in the future we might cross paths and something might come out of it. The thought of nothing happening just really makes my heart ache, but some things just can't be helped

Red, personally I think you're a great guy(no homo) from my experience playing with you in PL. The decision is completely yours and if complications occur then they just do. It's not your fault if your decision upsets one or both people in this occasion. If things don't work out then that's not your fault. Sh** happens and sometimes there is nothing we can do about it. However, if you let her go, there may be a chance that you will never see her again and she may never know how you truly feel. The decision is yours and I will try not to make it biased based on this post, but take heed at the circumstances.

[FluffNStuff]

Red,

From personal experience, I don't really know. I started dating my friend and we broke up and became best friends. Then we were friends with "benefits" for awhile / dating for awhile, and now we are just good friends. A romantic dilemma with your friend might mess up what you have already, so always take that into consideration. You don't want to hurt her even more, but you have that potential to make your relationship even better.

**** IGNORE THIS ****** Advice from a female right now is gonna get you in deeper.

Cut this off at the source, avoid her at all costs. Trust me on this.

[RedRyder]

Red,

From personal experience, I don't really know. I started dating my friend and we broke up and became best friends. Then we were friends with "benefits" for awhile / dating for awhile, and now we are just good friends. A romantic dilemma with your friend might mess up what you have already, so always take that into consideration. You don't want to hurt her even more, but you have that potential to make your relationship even better.

Lol I've been in that situation too with the same end result. I'm just gonna wait till I get the news on what happened last night before deciding on what move to make. And thanks potawtwo, I pretty set on telling her but idk how to even go about it..

[DawnInfinity]

**** IGNORE THIS ****** Advice from a female right now is gonna get you in deeper.

Cut this off at the source, avoid her at all costs. Trust me on this.

Lol, Fluff. Understandable. I just want Red to be happy and not regret his choices.

[drak3]

Telling her how you feel is important i think. If you dont then that regret would always be there. Also if you stall, then it will be harder for you having to bear with the wait and only thing you would do is hope for something to happen or change. Hope can be a real pain sometimes. How to tell her - a lil booze helps :P. If things go great then awesome. If not you can say that your minds all messed up with some things and you got confused. Take a few days, and with the knowledge that shes only gonna be friends with you, you will understand whether you really thought of her as a friend or were friends only cause you liked her. Also, the girl gets time to think over too and maybe she comes back with a positive response. Thats just what i think. Sorry if you felt it was a lil blunt, I tend to be like that sometimes. Good luck with whatever you decide

[RedRyder]

Haha I'm flattered that your first post was on my thread :p but thanks! And I'm pretty sure alcohol will play a part in my confession haha. NOTE: alcohol is not the best direction for a false confidence boost especially if you're underage (I'm of age don't worry :p)

[StompArtist]

Haha I'm flattered that your first post was on my thread :p but thanks! And I'm pretty sure alcohol will play a part in my confession haha. NOTE: alcohol is not the best direction for a false confidence boost especially if you're underage (I'm of age don't worry :p)

Alcohol is not a good way of getting over lack of confidence bro. I know it messed up a lot in my life and it took a lot more to fix what it did. A fair warning.

[Zeus]

Ask yourself, is it lust. Or do you truly like her? That's what I do every time I fall for a friend. If it's lust. Ignore it, no matter how hard it is. It just isn't worth it in the end.

[RedRyder]

There's noooo way it could be lust, because I never felt like this over her. I'm most certain it isn't, although I'd prefer it was since it wouldve made the situation so much easier to get over it. And yea stomp I know what you mean, but at times it seems to be the only way for me since I'm no good at facing situations head on. I've had my run ins with alcohol and it wasn't pretty (alc. Poisoning; brink of death.) I'm more careful about it

[Zeus]

There's noooo way it could be lust, because I never felt like this over her. I'm most certain it isn't, although I'd prefer it was since it wouldve made the situation so much easier to get over it. And yea stomp I know what you mean, but at times it seems to be the only way for me since I'm no good at facing situations head on. I've had my run ins with alcohol and it wasn't pretty (alc. Poisoning; brink of death.) I'm more careful about it

Yeah, usually the way I identify and differ between the two is, whenever I see her. If I focus almost always on her physical features and not interested in her personality. Then it's definitely lust for me. But, to me it sounds like you truly like this girl. I'd say go for it. Even if you lose the friendship in the end, because... A few years from now, you will be wondering, "What if I went through with it..." In my experience, friendships have always been mendable. No matter how bad the situation was.

[RedRyder]

Yeah, usually the way I identify and differ between the two is, whenever I see her. If I focus almost always on her physical features and not interested in her personality. Then it's definitely lust for me. But, to me it sounds like you truly like this girl. I'd say go for it. Even if you lose the friendship in the end, because... A few years from now, you will be wondering, "What if I went through with it..." In my experience, friendships have always been mendable. No matter how bad the situation was.

You're absolutely right. I have faith in our friendship so if this fails then I'm sure we'll get back on track in the future. I'm gonna do it, just waiting for the right chance. THANK YOU everyone for all of your advice :) it played a heavy role on my final decision. Wish ms luck! I'll update in this thread when I am and have gone through with it.

[Potawto]

You're absolutely right. I have faith in our friendship so if this fails then I'm sure we'll get back on track in the future. I'm gonna do it, just waiting for the right chance. THANK YOU everyone for all of your advice :) it played a heavy role on my final decision. Wish ms luck! I'll update in this thread when I am and have gone through with it.

We're rooting for you in the stands ;).

[RedRyder]

Quick and possibly final update:

I guess they worked things out. I started ignoring her calls and messages and I finally replied saying that idk how else to react to the whole situation. I saw er cry and was available at all times for days during this whole mess, but all it took for that guy was a few words, while still acting the victim. She says it's been 6 months (mind you they've never been going out at all during this time period) so it must mean something. She says she doesn't wanna lose him so whatever. Hope he can fill in my shoes cause she lost me.


No I didn't have a chance to express my feelings to her; at this point it seemed futile.

Thanks for the support and advice everyone. If she wasn't so dense then i could've put it all to good use.. Sorry for wasting anyone's time :\ I won't Be in game for a while, and if I am it'll be for short instances. Again, thanks everyone

[Pandamoni]

I wish there was a hug emote :( You know, unfortunately, some people just need to be treated poorly in relationships (my sibling is like this) and no matter how wonderful they are and how much YOU can see their value and worth, they can't see it and choose people who affirm that they aren't worthy of being loved well.

[drak3]

Sorry to hear that bro. Some girls cant see straight. Take care man. Many people out here if you ever need to talk.

[Redbridge]

Quick and possibly final update:

I guess they worked things out. I started ignoring her calls and messages and I finally replied saying that idk how else to react to the whole situation. I saw er cry and was available at all times for days during this whole mess, but all it took for that guy was a few words, while still acting the victim. She says it's been 6 months (mind you they've never been going out at all during this time period) so it must mean something. She says she doesn't wanna lose him so whatever. Hope he can fill in my shoes cause she lost me.


No I didn't have a chance to express my feelings to her; at this point it seemed futile.

Thanks for the support and advice everyone. If she wasn't so dense then i could've put it all to good use.. Sorry for wasting anyone's time :\ I won't Be in game for a while, and if I am it'll be for short instances. Again, thanks everyone

Clearly fate is saving a cracker for you, I just wish my daughter was older, as you sound like great son-in-law material.

[RedRyder]

Thanks guys and gals, hopefully someday she'll come to her senses or he doesn't hurt her anymore. Thanks red haha no ones ever said anything like that to me before it cheered me up :p. Hey maybe I'll get lucky and find someone soon. It's been over a year for me and it's sucked a lot

[noobmigo]

Thanks guys and gals, hopefully someday she'll come to her senses or he doesn't hurt her anymore. Thanks red haha no ones ever said anything like that to me before it cheered me up :p. Hey maybe I'll get lucky and find someone soon. It's been over a year for me and it's sucked a lot

Well, I don't think you should have went for her anyway. Especially if she came drunk. Alcohol really screws you up. Lmao, I registered on my email drunk, it screwed up. Anyway, GL, and make sure your soulmate likes PL. ;)

[Fatpigwarrior]

this is exactly what is happening to me

[giayuan]

this is exactly what is happening to me

really? hmm.. just compare yourself to red and just think what you would do. My golden rule is, never leave her side, always support her when she needs it, and be there for her.

[RedRyder]

So I told her tonight. And she told me that she was developing feelings for me too and that she knows my friends no good for her. She felt terrible for hurting me this whole time by telling me about my friend constantly and feels terrible.

Let's see what happens

[Fatpigwarrior]

lol well not exactly but this girl was my best friend and i like her now....

[RedRyder]

It's a bit more complicated when you're my age lol

[Fatpigwarrior]

yeah lol
i can see

[Tengotengo]

I'mma throw my 2 cents in.

You're being pidgeonholed into a friendzone. She's gonna love you as a confidant and strong shoulder to cry on, but it's too late to be romantically interesting to her, as you've proven yourself to be too good of a friend, and thus "one of the gals".

I was there, and I spent 3 years in it. I decided to stop being friends with this one hottie's ex-and-possible future boyfriend and take her for myself. Now I am cleaning up diapers on our second child after 11 years of couplehood and 4 years of marriage, and I couldn't be happier.

Here's the thing, now that you've told her, it's time to break it off with both as friends. Tell the dude that you're totally upside down over his GF that he seems to dislike, and tell her to stay away unless she makes a decision. If he's willing to stay friends with a guy who wants to have his GF, great. Just don't expect it.

You need to pry yourself out of the friendzone though. Regardless of whether she returns or not. do you want to be getting calls 9 months from now, whining about how the relationship is going sour again? NO you don't. Finish this and move on, or get with her. Just don't be a sneak about it.

good luck. I salute you, Red; extricate yourself from this formidable place and feel freedom's sweet breath upon your cheeks again.

[RedRyder]

Thanks tengo you're right. I could really care less if I'm not friends with the guy anymore so it's not an issue. I don't wanna pressure her though by throwing an ultimatum at her but it seems like I can't run away from that. I don't have a choice. She knows I'd be better for her.

[FluffNStuff]

Thanks tengo you're right. I could really care less if I'm not friends with the guy anymore so it's not an issue. I don't wanna pressure her though by throwing an ultimatum at her but it seems like I can't run away from that. I don't have a choice. She knows I'd be better for her.

Tengotengo speaks the truth. You really have to 'kill' the friendship for a chance at more. If you do have a shot, and its not some built up obsession in your head, go for it, and don't worry about losing the friendship.

[StompArtist]

I , too, agree with Tengo.

On a side note Tengo said : "now I am cleaning up diapers on our second child after 11 years of couplehood and 4 years of marriage, and I couldn't be happier." - Don't be too scared this will not necessarily happen!

[RedRyder]

I , too, agree with Tengo.

On a side note Tengo said : "now I am cleaning up diapers on our second child after 11 years of couplehood and 4 years of marriage, and I couldn't be happier." - Don't be too scared this will not necessarily happen!

Ha that's actually the part of life I look forward to the most. I'd like to marry and have children young; after I'm financially stable of course

[Tengotengo]

I would suggest striving for financial security, but that may never happen. Aim for a great, long term relationship, and the money will fix itself out of necessity. I'm by no means on stable ground financially.

Also, did you say you were going away to school? You may want to think about your dedication to a long-distance thing. Those suck sooooo bad. The only thing worse is to be a longing friendzoner in a long distance thing.

[jjjjaaaakkkke]

This reminds me of the summer I had in 9th grade. My best friend.. we were like brothers, and we were totally in love with the same girl. We black mailed each other, fought(mentally and sorta physically.) Both of us tried our best to humiliate each other in public.. I even used reverse psychology on him. It was one crazy summer.

Now that we look back on it, we keep saying we didn't know what we were thinking, it was a waste of time.. She's really just a shallow, and spoiled girl.
I mean.. a guy she barely knows asks her out, and she says yes when it's obvious we liked her for a long time.. (I liked her for a yr my friend liked her for 3)

Then she breaks up with him once she see's our reaction. Then, she says a bunch of a bs. Even if she didn't do that thing, if I think about it she really doesn't have a good personality.

Love really makes you crazy..and blind..

[azulflame]

Forgot who said this, not gonna check cuz I'm on my galaxy s, but breaking up a friendship is hard, sometimes painful, and only done when neccessary. I've had to do it a few times, because of things out of my control, but just keep a cool head and do not try booze while at it. That will screw up your mind and it will go painfully wrong. A friend tried it, and it blew up in his face. Just be yourself, maybe ACT drunk, so u have the booze excuse, not do not take alcohol while doing this. It will blow up really bad.

That's my two cents.

[RedRyder]

I already told her how I felt, and I really regret it. It's no longer the same as we were for her fear of hurting me anymore, so I'll probably never see her outside of work. If I didn't say anything then we would've still been hanging out every other day... But no. She thinks it'll just make things harder for me. I told her my feelings won't be going anywhere anytime soon and she said that she thinks it might.

Wtf?

So I decided to cut her off. I can't deal with it anymore. I can't wait to leave for school in hopes that I'll never have to see her again. I wish I could hate her

[Zeus]

I already told her how I felt, and I really regret it. It's no longer the same as we were for her fear of hurting me anymore, so I'll probably never see her outside of work. If I didn't say anything then we would've still been hanging out every other day... But no. She thinks it'll just make things harder for me. I told her my feelings won't be going anywhere anytime soon and she said that she thinks it might.

Wtf?


So I decided to cut her off. I can't deal with it anymore. I can't wait to leave for school in hopes that I'll never have to see her again. I wish I could hate her

Ouch Red :(. Sorry it didn't work out for you. Some people just like getting hurt, I know you will definitely find somebody better for you out there :).