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Spheresome
06-11-2018, 03:39 PM
So I had this ex-friend of mine and here is the reason why I am no longer friends with him/her


1. asked to borrow my medusa set for a trust test - I said no
2. ask to be guild master of my guild - I said no (he was already officer)

I told this friend of mine that "I dont trust anyone and that its not his fault and is because I have seen to many scams within Arcane Legends my entire career of playing"
He says he did all of these things so that he could prove his loyalty to me.

Now this person gets his friends to try and tell me I am a bad person and that I dont understand how my ex-friend's life really is.
He also tells me that I dont know how to run guilds, since i wouldnt make him guild master and says that I need to learn to trust more.
And this ex friend has since left my guild.

Did i do anything wrong? Should I be more trustworthy? Any advice how to deal with my ex-friend and his friends from their consistently endless pms to me?

In my opinion, you can still have a friendship without having any of this trust test bs.
Trust tests shouldn't be a thing.

Ajcheisnj
06-11-2018, 03:53 PM
I dont trust anyone with my items (not even my brother) aswell and thats not a reason for your friend to be mad ,mby If u borrowed him the medusa set he would've scammed u ;-; btw trust tests r really stupid and there is no need for them

Nohealth
06-11-2018, 03:55 PM
First of all, trust test was created by scammers and will always be scamming method. Especially by people that claim to be your friend but in fact they are just waiting around for perfect moment to catch you off-guard and scam. After he realized that he ain't getting the set, he tried to take guild and probably kick you out of it or just disband in revenge.

You didn't do anything wrong at all!

I'm suggesting you to kick that "friend" from guild and warn your close friends about his behavior so they don't fall in case he will try some tricks on them and explain guild why he got kicked so they know that this isn't acceptable and very suspicious. Imo I'd even say that he tried to scamm you but that's really up to you.

About his friends, just put on ignore if they keep spamming you. Some of them could knew that he is going to do it anyway or they are blind and just follow him.

Drone
06-11-2018, 03:56 PM
Put them on ignore list, problem solved. If they’re truly your friends, they wouldn’t be doing that nonsense anyway.

Captain critic
06-11-2018, 04:06 PM
Him or her saying you don't know how to run a guild is abit stupid of her considering she stayed with you this long, trust tests are tricky in al but very necessary in rl

Flamesofanger
06-11-2018, 04:08 PM
So I had this ex-friend of mine and here is the reason why I am no longer friends with him/her


1. asked to borrow my medusa set for a trust test - I said no
2. ask to be guild master of my guild - I said no (he was already officer)

I told this friend of mine that "I dont trust anyone and that its not his fault and is because I have seen to many scams within Arcane Legends my entire career of playing"
He says he did all of these things so that he could prove his loyalty to me.

Now this person gets his friends to try and tell me I am a bad person and that I dont understand how my ex-friend's life really is.
He also tells me that I dont know how to run guilds, since i wouldnt make him guild master and says that I need to learn to trust more.
And this ex friend has since left my guild.

Did i do anything wrong? Should I be more trustworthy? Any advice how to deal with my ex-friend and his friends from their consistently endless pms to me?

In my opinion, you can still have a friendship without having any of this trust test bs.
Trust tests shouldn't be a thing.

You did absolutely nothing wrong, you are innocent.

Screenshotz
06-11-2018, 04:08 PM
Did i do anything wrong? Should I be more trustworthy? Any advice how to deal with my ex-friend and his friends from their consistently endless pms to me?

No, no, and just ignore them :)

If someone asks to "borrow" a set worth 100m+ they are most likely a scammer.

PostNoob
06-11-2018, 04:14 PM
The part where his or her friends get involved gets me a little nervous. Either there is something fishy about their want for your things or its just me.

If my friend(internet friend) denied me of these things I surely wouldn't leave the guild nor have my buddies pm you . trust test is the dumbest thing ever, honestly. They know that if they pass it then they can push things even farther..

I wouldn't say you made a good or bad decision, I would say you made the correct decision. People will wash years of friendship down the drain purely out of greed.

I wouldn't make this person an officer again, at least for a long time. That would be your first mistake. It sucks losing friends but sometimes bad people hide behind the "friend" tag.

I would say to them something like how you wouldn't do a trust test with anyone I don't know in real life and can find in real life(ofc you probably wouldn't need to do a test then) nor would you give a person the power to destroy your guild just because your online friends.

I'm sorry I'm really tired but maybe you can pick out the good parts of this sloppy post.

No worries, you did the only smart thing.

Good luck with this and have a nice day!

Flamesofanger
06-11-2018, 04:14 PM
No, no, and just ignore them :)

If someone asks to "borrow" a set worth 100m+ they are most likely a scammer.

This right over here is the truth^^^^^^^^^

Once i was in travelers outpost relaxing and then some random guy came up to me and asked me if he could "Wear" my red arlor set before he

"Quits" and he showed me his 21m saying he'll also give it to me and also give the vanity set back if i do what he says.

I immediately thought "If he has all that bank, why doesn't he get the red arlor set himself???" I simply just put that guy on ignore list and left, it

was an obvious scam.

thekragle
06-11-2018, 04:25 PM
Glad to see a thread about someone who did the right thing! Anyone who asks for things that are hard to replace or gives major control of guild should immediately be considered untrustworthy.

Your story is a perfect example of how some people will groom players to trust them and then see if they can scam them afterwards. You did the right thing. Now ignore or boot anyone who says you were wrong!

Remember that guilt is what scammers use to scam.

Spheresome
06-11-2018, 05:05 PM
About his friends, just put on ignore if they keep spamming you. Some of them could knew that he is going to do it anyway or they are blind and just follow him.

Is it any more suspicious that his friend messaged me a few days earlier (he somehow knew my ign even though id never met him b4) saying that my exfriend was a trustworthy person and that I should trust him/her more?

PostNoob
06-11-2018, 05:11 PM
Is it any more suspicious that his friend messaged me a few days earlier (he somehow knew my ign even though id never met him b4) saying that my exfriend was a trustworthy person and that I should trust him/her more?

Defidently. Red flag the size of a barn right there. If this person was so trustworthy there would be no need for anyone to explain it to you, let alone some random "friends". they look more like "partners" in something sinister than anything the more you tell :p.

I'm super cautious like you and many others here, it is the interwebs after all.

Sorry i know you quoted Nohealth but I can tell you that your gut is right good sir/madam :).

Oakmaiden
06-11-2018, 05:14 PM
To thine own self be true.... I think that person was trying to scam your guild and anything else one might value in this game!

Nohealth
06-11-2018, 05:17 PM
Is it any more suspicious that his friend messaged me a few days earlier (he somehow knew my ign even though id never met him b4) saying that my exfriend was a trustworthy person and that I should trust him/her more?




Defidently. Red flag the size of a barn right there. If this person was so trustworthy there would be no need for anyone to explain it to you, let alone some random "friends". they look more like "partners" in something sinister than anything the more you tell

As said above :)

Spheresome
06-11-2018, 05:20 PM
tysm everyone <3 its really comforting to know that there are still people in the community like you guys and it really comforts me to know I have that community behind my back~ <3

Sorry I couldn't thank everyone's posts i ran out of daily thanks lmao xD

Captain critic
06-11-2018, 05:27 PM
tysm everyone <3 its really comforting to know that there are still people in the community like you guys and it really comforts me to know I have that community behind my back~ <3

Sorry I couldn't thank everyone's posts i ran out of daily thanks lmao xD

Lol community criticized people because that were scammed for being a nab but when someone shows us they avoided the scammer the community gz them XD abit ironic in a way

Spheresome
06-11-2018, 05:28 PM
Lol community criticized people because that were scammed for being a nab but when someone shows us they avoided the scammer the community gz them XD abit ironic in a way

o_O

/11charss

Drone
06-11-2018, 05:37 PM
Lol community criticized people because that were scammed for being a nab but when someone shows us they avoided the scammer the community gz them XD abit ironic in a way

Where is this irony do you speak of? How else is it supposed to be?

Tippertwo
06-11-2018, 05:38 PM
People don’t need to earn ur friendship. If they try to do that, they are bad friends. Especially on this game. You may be best buds with someone, but as soon as they start asking for those things u listed, be cautious.

Captain critic
06-11-2018, 06:13 PM
Where is this irony do you speak of? How else is it supposed to be?

Usually when something like this happens people would cheer them up some how or feel sorry for them but not in the case of scammed people

Nohealth
06-11-2018, 06:18 PM
Hey guys I think we got a lot of good feedback out there, I think we shouldn't open up debate out here as it will just turn into another drama

Drone
06-11-2018, 06:19 PM
This isn’t the case, did you even read the original post?
Usually when something like this happens people would cheer them up some how or feel sorry for them but not in the case of scammed people

Vurtes
06-11-2018, 08:36 PM
You did absolutely nothing wrong, you are innocent.

It sounds like he’s trying to make you feel guilty so you will do what he wants. Don’t give in, you didn’t do anything wrong. It sounds like your “friend” is just selfish.


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PsychoNuke
06-11-2018, 09:30 PM
I have seen friends in real life (who knew each other for long time) scam and betray. And here you are wasting your time on a guy on internet. Move on and be batman :)

Majin
06-11-2018, 11:15 PM
So I had this ex-friend of mine and here is the reason why I am no longer friends with him/her


1. asked to borrow my medusa set for a trust test - I said no
2. ask to be guild master of my guild - I said no (he was already officer)

I told this friend of mine that "I dont trust anyone and that its not his fault and is because I have seen to many scams within Arcane Legends my entire career of playing"
He says he did all of these things so that he could prove his loyalty to me.

Now this person gets his friends to try and tell me I am a bad person and that I dont understand how my ex-friend's life really is.
He also tells me that I dont know how to run guilds, since i wouldnt make him guild master and says that I need to learn to trust more.
And this ex friend has since left my guild.

Did i do anything wrong? Should I be more trustworthy? Any advice how to deal with my ex-friend and his friends from their consistently endless pms to me?

In my opinion, you can still have a friendship without having any of this trust test bs.
Trust tests shouldn't be a thing.

3words:
Ignore immature whining..

DalleManden
06-12-2018, 01:39 AM
Trust tests are wack anyway, I don't get why anyone would do them. The dude was 100% trying to scam you, if he wasn't, why would he pull the victim card and make you feel like a bad person? (He clearly tried to push you to the edge so you would give the stuff to him) Just put him on the ignore list, and remove those people from your life

Xxkayakxx
06-12-2018, 02:19 AM
Even if your friend was really willing to give you back everything and show you he’s trustworthy, and got hurt by your behavior, taking it personally, you did good. That would be only the starting, leading to many people asking for the same and to get scammed in the process.
In my past I gave away millions to help people and I got it back I think 10% of the time. Not that all people are bad, but sadly you can’t trust anyone :( as there is no “justice” in game (as in real life).
Believe me, I’m trustful! I can show you that giving you back your medusa set anytime! XD (just kidding!!!!! Ok devs???? I’m KIDDING!!!! Don’t wanna to get banned again from forum for my sense of humor XD)

Gouiwaa9000
06-12-2018, 03:57 AM
In almost 6 years of playing i only trusted 3 players with my items , and non of them asked me to "prove my loyalty" . If they were the ones to break the friendship after the incident , this is really shady . Goes to show that they didn't value it . Someone you can trust with something you value would not just leave and spam you after you refuse to give them one of the rarest items in game for no reason -_-

If you ask me , you just saved yourself a medusa set + your guild . You can tell if you can trust a person by situations like these ^^ a real friend would understand why you dont want to risk such an expensive item and forget about it . I dont think they would even ask for a "trust test" in the first place .

PatD
06-12-2018, 08:04 AM
I would have done exactly the same bro! just put those people on ignore list they are toxic

BRYBE
06-12-2018, 08:06 AM
Only scammer do trust test

azeguasa
06-12-2018, 08:16 AM
You are lucky coz he was officer in your guild he could have done serious damage by kicking other members. Be happy that loser didn't think of that.

You did a good job. You cant trust anyone online.


Lookout for more of these tricksters..

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Zojack
06-12-2018, 10:03 AM
Your ex-friends "friends" who are messaging you are the ex-friend. scammer. Trying to scam you.

Captain critic
06-12-2018, 02:45 PM
This isn’t the case, did you even read the original post?

Oh my bad i meant usually when something bad happens to a person others cheer em up some how but in this he avoided scam and community gz him, to me the irony is that well what i said in first part here but when scammed, people are criticized

Fyrce
06-12-2018, 03:59 PM
Wait, what?

You wanted a bully to like you. The bully told you he will accept you if you live exactly as he wants you to live. And by the way, there are some things of yours that he wants.

You do not step precisely where he wants you to step. He cuts you and gets his posse to emulate in order to stay in his posse, since as long as they are his posse, they get to bask in his shiny bulliness. Now you are wondering whether you should have just been in his posse or is being yourself so much better.

Well, I think you should be yourself and ignore bullies, but in the end, it is up to you