Anyone have the same problem with Vietnamese?

[Beanmachine]

During my life, I never really was in contact with Vietnamese people, but now at boarding school, I have to live with one for a whole year. We started off ok, but the more I got to know about him, the more I was annoyed and despised him. Before all you Vietnamese people come and flame me, let me make some clarifications. I'm asian myself raised up the american way, and I know not all vietnamese people are like this, but let me just explain my thoughts and reasons why I'm starting to hate him.

First off, my vietnamese roommate is probably the most stubborn person in the world. Don't get my wrong, he's very smart but I sometimes think he's retarded. I ask him to close the door politely every time he leave's to class or somewhere and he always replies with "no b*itch" or simply forgets if I don't ask him. And not only that, when ever I say something he replies with "your mum -insert dirty word here-". I'm not sure if he's trying to act cool or something, but he's acting like a complete douche and to be honest, 9/10 people who live in our dorm hate or think he is annoying.

Second reason, he is literally LOUD AS F*CK. Whether he's skipping down the hall or talking or interrupting, making an announcement, or shocks that normally don't set off other people. I swear, if you needed a microphone, he would be the human version. Even when he sleeps, he snores sooooo loud and screams when he sleep talks.

Third reason, the amount of unnecessary profanity he uses. He swears so much and when I was talking to my father and little brother on Skype, he was shouting "F*CK! F*CK MRS -INSERT FEMALE NAME- IN THE @$$! SH*T!" Seriously when I'm on Skype with my parents? Even after a few warnings and asking him to try not swear while I Skype my parents, he still throws in a few "sh*ts" and "f*cks".

Sorry if I offended anyone out there, I am just so mad after tonight, I was drinking my energy drink and my roommate comes along and fricken spills it all over my jacket, shirt, pants, and chair. I seriously think he has problems getting along with people.

[mackjack]

Your problem is not with Vietnamese in general, but this one particular douche bag that just happens to be Vietnamese.

Anyway, the solution to your problem is to give him a good thrashing.

[Beanmachine]

Your problem is not with Vietnamese in general, but this one particular douche bag that just happens to be Vietnamese.

Anyway, the solution to your problem is to give him a good thrashing.

I would love to do that, but it would be classified as "bullying" and then I would get kicked out of school. It's happened to other boarders before, and this guy actually wants me to leave somehow so he can have a single room.

And I'm also referring to his Facebook friends who comment on posts he tags me in. It seems as if they are trying to put me down and that he is better than me.

[Kaytar]

smh...can't cure stupid ;) haha tell him I said that!!

[razerfingers]

Lol reason to post this on forums is?

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[Lowlyspy]

Lol reason to post this on forums is?

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Venting, we all need to do it every now and then.

Ignore it and if need be confront him. If that doesn't work talk to whoever is in charge of your dorm, they might be able to do something (and if he tries to lie get a tape recorder and turn it on under your pillow all day, bet you'll catch him ;D).

[Beanmachine]

Venting, we all need to do it every now and then.

Ignore it and if need be confront him. If that doesn't work talk to whoever is in charge of your dorm, they might be able to do something (and if he tries to lie get a tape recorder and turn it on under your pillow all day, bet you'll catch him ;D).

Thank you for advice. My mum even suggested me to talk to my dorm head to see whether I could swap roommates. I originally didn't want to vent, but after he spilled my energy drink on my stuff, I got really mad. I did manage to get him on tape saying the b word in his sleep talk lol. Next time he's rude, I'll talk to him. But whenever I try, he always says "yes mom" but actually never listens to me.

[Lowlyspy]

Thank you for advice. My mum even suggested me to talk to my dorm head to see whether I could swap roommates. I originally didn't want to vent, but after he spilled my energy drink on my stuff, I got really mad. I did manage to get him on tape saying the b word in his sleep talk lol. Next time he's rude, I'll talk to him. But whenever I try, he always says "yes mom" but actually never listens to me.
Happy to help bud. Be proud, you have more self control than I do lol. If he had done that to me we would both be going to the hospital, but I would just need stitches in my hand :p

[Beanmachine]

Happy to help bud. Be proud, you have more self control than I do lol. If he had done that to me we would both be going to the hospital, but I would just need stitches in my hand :p

Hehe, last time I had a fist fight at school, I ended up having a sore stomach when ever I swam for the next 2 weeks. Other than that, no major injuries >.<

[NECROREAPER]

It's happened to other boarders before, and this guy actually wants me to leave somehow so he can have a single room.



This is your answer.

He's trying to instigate something and make you break a rule so you'll be gone, which technically could be classified as bullying. If I were you, I'd turn the tables on him and use his own game against him.

[Beanmachine]

This is your answer.

He's trying to instigate something and make you break a rule so you'll be gone, which technically could be classified as bullying. If I were you, I'd turn the tables on him and use his own game against him.

I have no idea if he's joking or not, because other times he says he wants to kill me (rather than breaking a rule) which I'm guessing is a joke:s Last time he was repetitively shouting the s-word at night. The next morning I asked him about it and he said he did not remember anything at all. To me, he's really hard to understand what his real thoughts and feelings are.

[PablobobChan]

Not all Vietnamese people are like that. :P

I have a Vietnamese friend and he's a sweetheart ;)

This guy here just sounds like an utter nutcase.

[Carth]

Talk to the head dorm manager (or whatever you call them) and say that your roommate has an uncontrollably bad and obnoxious behavior and threatens to kill you at times. Tell the manager that the death threats are seeming to become less and less of a joke and they're bothering you.

This is what I would do. Good luck in whatever choice you make.

[MimeRifle]

I would love to do that, but it would be classified as "bullying" and then I would get kicked out of school. It's happened to other boarders before, and this guy actually wants me to leave somehow so he can have a single room.

And I'm also referring to his Facebook friends who comment on posts he tags me in. It seems as if they are trying to put me down and that he is better than me.
I don't advise the thrashing. If he wants you to leave, and you don't want to leave - you stay, and rise above it. No amount of negativity can beat sincere kindness on your part. I understand some people are just annoying, personality issues, whatever. I certainly would not assume all folks of any nationality are so much the same that way.

I'll give you two quotes, just to ponder... maybe it'll help a little with your ire.

"I shall allow no man to belittle my soul by making me hate him." (Booker T. Washington)

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." (Eleanor Roosevelt)

[MimeRifle]

Also... reporting very obnoxious and rude behavior to the management is an appropriate way to handle things. ;)

[StompArtist]

This guy is a clown intent on driving you out. You got 2 choices:

- You leave, let him have this little victory and eventually he's going to try and pull that off with the wrong guy (ie: someone talks like that about my mum I don't care what happens, I'll clock him because I have a bad temper) and get what is coming to him.

- You file a complaint and go through the whole process of formally dealing with the management until he's sorted out. This will require patience and tenacity.

Also, I strongly recommend not judging Vietnamese people based on this clown. I went out with a girl from Vietnam (a very long time ago in a galaxy far far away) and her and her friends and parents where the most respectful friendly people I have ever met.

My 2 cents.

[morfic]

"I shall allow no man to belittle my soul by making me hate him." (Booker T. Washington)

Or like he also said, "Sometimes you have to give someone a Harlem Hangover, Harlem Sidekick, Or Harlem Heat to keep them in line"

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[MimeRifle]

Or like he also said, "Sometimes you have to give someone a Harlem Hangover, Harlem Sidekick, Or Harlem Heat to keep them in line"

LMAO.... leave it to Morf. :smiley_simmons:

[wvhills]

I'm kind of old school but I say he needs a good old attitude adjustment. I'm with stomp, if he said anything about my mom I'd knock him out. When he woke up I'd tell him if he goes tattle telling to anyone I'm going to find him and knock him out again. If the dean or whoever did find out about it I'd say "he said _________ about my mom so I knocked him out". You may get kicked out and he would probly go around telling all his friends he got what he wanted because he got a single room but in his heart he'd know he got shut up. I'm not saying that's what you should do I'm just saying that's what I'd do.

[Beanmachine]

Thank you to everyone who replied, I made my mind up. If he does one of those things mentioned above, I will have a serious talk with him, and if he doesn't listen, and continues to do what ever he does, I'll talk to the dorm head or manager. We only have one more tri-mester in school, so I don't think it's worth getting kicked out so close to the end of the school year. And with the "you mom _______" jokes, I'm ok with it once or twice but he says it so often, it's not even funny and starts to get rude and vulgar.

[Beanmachine]

Most Vietnamese people are not like this.

You need to escalate this, as in get the adults involved. That means let your parents hear this guy swearing when you Skype, nudge other students to complain and complain yourself about the guy interfering with your ability to perform in school, to sleep and your peace of mind in general.

Hell, it sounds like this guy is perfect for 24/7 recording!

And take photos of any items being damaged by this guy! AND file a complaint.

The thing is, while I was sky ping my parents, my little brother who is only 3 was there also, and I don't want him to learn bad things from my roommate. Other than that, when I go home soon for the holidays, I'll talk to them about this. As for the recording, the only thing I can record with is my phone or computer, which doesn't make it very convenient. Sometimes I miss stuff he says because it takes a good 10 seconds to set the recording on my phone but then I can't do anything else with it.

[wvhills]

The thing is, while I was sky ping my parents, my little brother who is only 3 was there also, and I don't want him to learn bad things from my roommate. Other than that, when I go home soon for the holidays, I'll talk to them about this. As for the recording, the only thing I can record with is my phone or computer, which doesn't make it very convenient. Sometimes I miss stuff he says because it takes a good 10 seconds to set the recording on my phone but then I can't do anything else with it.

Watch the Godfather and just ask yourself "how would Don Corleone handle this"? :)
Lol.

[StompArtist]

Watch the Godfather and just ask yourself "how would Don Corleone handle this"? :)
Lol.

horse heads?

[Beanmachine]

Watch the Godfather and just ask yourself "how would Don Corleone handle this"? :)
Lol.

Lol my mom is always telling me to watch it cause it's such a good movie. Maybe I'll watch it this coming holiday and ponder to myself that question:)

[Cahaun]

What would Clint Eastwood do?
;)

[morfic]

Grit his teeth and squint at em.

[ghost.mw]

Maybe if you beat the crap out of him he will learn.

[Cahaun]

Maybe if you beat the crap out of him he will learn.
That he can't

[Swords]

Bully him! lawl!

[ghost.mw]

Maybe if you beat the crap out of him he will learn.
That he can't
In that case this guy is unstoppable.

[Zaltiar]

Hey... Have you ever been on collegehumor.com? I check out their article section in the roommate section.. Lol should give you some ideas

[Beanmachine]

Hey... Have you ever been on collegehumor.com? I check out their article section in the roommate section.. Lol should give you some ideas

I love those! I watched the Star craft version and the one where his roommate always eats his food so he puts laxatives in them lol!

[Bluepinixy]

Sigh, at school, i have this irish classmate sitting beside me. She annoysme so much! I ignore her, but i cant sometimes cuz we sometimes have to do something together, and shes also saying IM the annoying one! Seriously one time at lunch, she kept saying to me and to my ear : betty bought a bit of butter but the bit of butter bettey bought was bitter. Oh and my name is NOT betty. And you think thats annoying? She wont stop yabbering about this stupid book she picked, you see we were supposed to pick a book, she picked this HUGE book for lil infants, and guess what? She keeps putting it on MY side even though SHE picked it. Seriously, i even told her, that shes about to make me swear. But you know, i cant, but she almost made me say fak! I said fu-- i mean.. Damn you. Ugh god damit, i ignore her everytime we dont work together. God, this irish also is selfish. Our class was outside doing an activity, and she has this best friend, she wanted to be beside her all the time, so she was ordering people to go here and there, and eventually teacher gave out to her! LOL,
Sigh just one more month and i can move seats and sit with someone less annoying than her ;/

P.S i cant believe your so calm, if i was you i wouldve gotten something sharp and stabbed him right away..
Heres a tip: I.G.N.O.R.E
Or perhaps ask if you can get a diff roommate :)

[-_-Legiito]

U c wat ill do is when he talks all that mess ill start talkin back. Sometimes nice guys finish last. Dont get me wrong im a nice guy but that is enough so go talk some sense in him. Btw I have an Vietnamese friend and he is nothing like this at all.

[Beanmachine]

Sigh, at school, i have this irish classmate sitting beside me. She annoysme so much! I ignore her, but i cant sometimes cuz we sometimes have to do something together, and shes also saying IM the annoying one! Seriously one time at lunch, she kept saying to me and to my ear : betty bought a bit of butter but the bit of butter bettey bought was bitter. Oh and my name is NOT betty. And you think thats annoying? She wont stop yabbering about this stupid book she picked, you see we were supposed to pick a book, she picked this HUGE book for lil infants, and guess what? She keeps putting it on MY side even though SHE picked it. Seriously, i even told her, that shes about to make me swear. But you know, i cant, but she almost made me say fak! I said fu-- i mean.. Damn you. Ugh god damit, i ignore her everytime we dont work together. God, this irish also is selfish. Our class was outside doing an activity, and she has this best friend, she wanted to be beside her all the time, so she was ordering people to go here and there, and eventually teacher gave out to her! LOL,
Sigh just one more month and i can move seats and sit with someone less annoying than her ;/

P.S i cant believe your so calm, if i was you i wouldve gotten something sharp and stabbed him right away..
Heres a tip: I.G.N.O.R.E
Or perhaps ask if you can get a diff roommate :)

She sounds very immature, sorry you can't change seats:/ It's a big bummer when you get paired with someone you really hate.
I also try to ignore him and give him the silent treatment unless I have to ask for homework.


U c wat ill do is when he talks all that mess ill start talkin back. Sometimes nice guys finish last. Dont get me wrong im a nice guy but that is enough so go talk some sense in him. Btw I have an Vietnamese friend and he is nothing like this at all.

Sometimes I talk back or tell him to stop making those annoying jokes/statements and other times I ignore him.

[Bluepinixy]

She sounds very immature, sorry you can't change seats:/ It's a big bummer when you get paired with someone you really hate.
I also try to ignore him and give him the silent treatment unless I have to ask for homework.

I was talking to my friends about her at lunch today, and it turns out, they hate her as well, they also said that her best friend is MUCH MUCH kinder than her, Looks like more people are on my side rather than hers :)
Also, maybe if your talking to your family or brother, see if you can find a secret space where you can talk to them in peace, if not.. Well good luck
Another thing, maybe find out why hes acting like a douche bag.
And maybe find something you two have in common..